FREE Today and Tomorrow Only – Learn 4 Secrets That Will Change Your Life!

Have you ever wondered, “Is this really all there is?” My life used to consist of work, chores, taking care of the kids, and a couple hours of TV to unwind before I went to bed. After my divorce I met people who helped me realize that there really is more out there – a LOT more! My life has changed in ways I would never have believed possible.

As a result of everything I learned, I published my first book in April – Thriving not Surviving: Bravely Pursue a Life That Will Blow Your Mind! It is a straightforward guide for changing your thinking in a way that will help you move from simply surviving to thriving. I’ve done it and so can you! (see below for an excerpt from the book)

If you haven’t downloaded it yet, click the image below to download the Kindle version for FREE today and tomorrow only (the paperback version is also available but not eligible for the promotion). Go grab it and let me know what you think! Miss the promotion? Email me at gratefulsinglemoms@yahoo.com and I will notify you of the next promotion!

After you read the book, please leave a review on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps more than you know!

I was fortunate enough to be able to include writing from two of our fellow bloggers as well:

The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

A Creative PTSD Gal

Click the image below to get your free copy today!

What Do You Want More Than Anything Else?

New Year’s Day is a time for resolutions. We use this time to reflect on the year that has passed, and plan for the year ahead. There are many changes I’d like to see in 2019. Among those are:

  • Become more disciplined in my writing.  I want to finish my novel this year and begin blogging again.
  • Maintain my weight for the year.
  • Continue running 5 miles once or twice a week while increasing speed.
  • Reduce the use of artificial sweeteners.
  • Do more physical activities with my kids.
  • Reduce sugar and increase vegetables in the girls’ diet.

The problem is that New Year’s resolutions are incredibly difficult to stick to.  It sounds good on January 1 when we tell ourselves we’re going to start eating better, but we’re not going to start on a holiday, right?  There’s a big party and we can’t possibly miss out on Joe’s wings and Sarah’s brownies.  Tomorrow is as good a day to start as today.  Then January 2 a coworker brings in a dozen doughnuts…and we decide it can wait a day.

I was in this rut for years.  There was always a reason to wait a day.  I was too busy, too tired, too frustrated, too sad, too happy.  And so I’d wait.

I researched ways to break this cycle.  I Googled how to stick to resolutions and I read about changing habits.  The experts would have you believe there’s a formula you can follow.  I read about SMART goals in Take Control Of Your Life: A 2 hour plan to help you set and reach your goals and forming habits in The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business.  Their arguments made sense and I liked the idea that there was a clear cut answer. I recommend both these books, but their formulas didn’t work.  Maybe they will work for you, but they didn’t for me.  I found sticking to following the formula had the same problem I had sticking to the resolution.  I just didn’t do it.

But last year was different.  Last year I made changes to my life and I stuck with them.  I fundamentally changed how I was eating.  I became more physically active.  I wrote for the first time in years.  I started doing all the things I’d told myself for years I would do.

What was different?  How did I suddenly do it when I’d never been able to follow through before?

It’s a question I’ve been thinking about a lot, because as I posted yesterday I’ve gotten off track and I want to fix it.  I know I can – I’ve done it before.  But how?

What I’ve come up with is that I wanted it and I believed in myself.  I made myself a priority.

By the end of 2017 my back hurt so badly I was in tears just trying to get off the couch.  I knew if I lost weight it would hurt less.  And I wanted to hurt less.  I wanted my back to stop hurting more than I wanted to eat brownies.  So I made changes that aligned with this goal.  I did whatever I had to do to achieve this, including ending a relationship with someone who encouraged me to eat badly.  I made it a priority and I stuck with it.

I published my first book in 2018 for the same reason.  I have always wanted to write a book.  As a child I would literally bind my own books that I had written.  But why was I able to do publish a book in 2018 when for the 40 years prior to that it had just been a pipe dream?  Getting on track with my diet gave me confidence.  I finally realized that if I wanted something – even something that has eluded me for years – I could achieve it.  So I focused my energy on writing.  I made time to write, even if it meant the laundry didn’t get folded and the floor waited to be mopped.  I took time off from work and woke up early to write.  I prioritized writing and I published my book.

So this year, when I write my resolutions I will focus on what it is I really want from 2019.  What do I want more than anything else?  What do I want more than brownies?  What is so important to me that I will give up everything else to achieve it?

What do you want badly enough to give up everything else?

This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Resolutions.

Let’s Create a New Tradition!

This time of year is filled with family, friends and traditions. It is a time for saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new.

I started 2018 strong – stronger than any year I can remember. I achieved more than I ever thought I could in a single year:

  • I lost over 40 pounds in 9 months and have been maintaining for 3 months.
  • I started running and can now run 5 miles.
  • I took up yoga and can now bend myself into a pretzel.
  • I started meditating.
  • I began writing and blogging.
  • I wrote and published my first book.
  • I started my novel.
  • I took over 2 MeetUp groups.
  • I traveled to new places.

I became a version of me that I truly loved.

But since October my life has gotten a little off track.  My mom passed away and even though we weren’t close it hit me hard.  At the same time I lost a good friend.  He’s still alive and kicking, but I don’t have him for support anymore.  I had trouble with my rental, my expenses skyrocketed, my savings dwindled.  Every piece of my life seemed to be spinning out of control.

I’ve been trying to be patient with myself.  It takes time to heal.  But after 2 months I’m getting restless.  I am starting to feel like I’m using this as an excuse and I want to get back to where I was…before.

I want to repeat my strong start from last year.  I want that to be a new tradition.  I don’t want to just make resolutions.  I want to propel myself into a better life.  I want to use New Year’s Day as a time to reset myself, to be the person I want to be.

Will you join me?

I’m going to start by rereading my book. You can too. It will be available for FREE on 1/1 and 1/2 to get you started. Just click on the image below to get your copy. Let’s do this!

This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Traditions.

FREE Today Only – Learn 4 Secrets That Will Change Your Life!

Have you ever wondered, “Is this really all there is?” My life used to consist of work, chores, taking care of the kids, and a couple hours of TV to unwind before I went to bed. After my divorce I met people who helped me realize that there really is more out there – a LOT more! My life has changed in ways I would never have believed possible.

As a result of everything I learned, I published my first book in April – Thriving not Surviving: Bravely Pursue a Life That Will Blow Your Mind! It is a straightforward guide for changing your thinking in a way that will help you move from simply surviving to thriving. I’ve done it and so can you! (see below for an excerpt from the book)

If you haven’t downloaded it yet, you can download the Kindle version for FREE today only (the paperback version is also available but not eligible for the promotion). Go grab it and let me know what you think! Miss the promotion? Email me at gratefulsinglemoms@yahoo.com and I will notify you of the next promotion!

After you read the book, please leave a review on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps more than you know!

I was fortunate enough to be able to include writing from two of our fellow bloggers as well:

The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

A Creative PTSD Gal

Click the image below to get your free copy today!

Excerpt:

We are inundated day in and day out with messages of lack, things we don’t have but desperately need. Is it any wonder we struggle to feel grateful for the things we have? And yet gratitude is the one thing that will always make us feel happier.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and unhappy at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and lonely at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and angry at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and less fortunate at the same time.

How much happier would you feel if you spent more time focusing on the good things in your life? If you thought about the amazing friends you have, how much you love your kids, and how lucky you are to even just be alive, what would your life be like?

All it takes is a little practice. Now that you have (hopefully) accepted that you can choose your perspective in a situation, you can also decide to feel gratitude for whatever lesson, success or gain you have received as well. You can choose to actively seek out positive aspects of your life, even the smallest ones, until you can fully appreciate how fortunate you really are.

Even if you just feel grateful for your morning cup of coffee, the fact you have food for lunch and a job to go to every day, you will improve your life by simply opting to feel grateful for these things.

FREE Today Only – Learn 4 Secrets That Will Change Your Life!

Have you ever wondered, “Is this really all there is?” My life used to consist of work, chores, taking care of the kids, and a couple hours of TV to unwind before I went to bed. After my divorce I met people who helped me realize that there really is more out there – a LOT more! My life has changed in ways I would never have believed possible.

As a result of everything I learned, I published my first book in April – Thriving not Surviving: Bravely Pursue a Life That Will Blow Your Mind! It is a straightforward guide for changing your thinking in a way that will help you move from simply surviving to thriving. I’ve done it and so can you! (see below for an excerpt from the book)

If you haven’t downloaded it yet, you can download the Kindle version for FREE today only (the paperback version is also available but not eligible for the promotion). Go grab it and let me know what you think! Miss the promotion? Email me at gratefulsinglemoms@yahoo.com and I will notify you of the next promotion!

After you read the book, please leave a review on Amazon or Goodreads. It helps more than you know!

I was fortunate enough to be able to include writing from two of our fellow bloggers as well:

The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

A Creative PTSD Gal

Click the image below to get your free copy today!

Excerpt:

We are inundated day in and day out with messages of lack, things we don’t have but desperately need. Is it any wonder we struggle to feel grateful for the things we have? And yet gratitude is the one thing that will always make us feel happier.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and unhappy at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and lonely at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and angry at the same time.

It is impossible to feel both grateful and less fortunate at the same time.

How much happier would you feel if you spent more time focusing on the good things in your life? If you thought about the amazing friends you have, how much you love your kids, and how lucky you are to even just be alive, what would your life be like?

All it takes is a little practice. Now that you have (hopefully) accepted that you can choose your perspective in a situation, you can also decide to feel gratitude for whatever lesson, success or gain you have received as well. You can choose to actively seek out positive aspects of your life, even the smallest ones, until you can fully appreciate how fortunate you really are.

Even if you just feel grateful for your morning cup of coffee, the fact you have food for lunch and a job to go to every day, you will improve your life by simply opting to feel grateful for these things.

Download my Book for FREE on Saturday and Sunday

Sometimes procrastination pays off! If you haven’t downloaded my book yet, you can download the Kindle version for FREE on Saturday and Sunday (the paperback version is also available but not eligible for the promotion). Go grab it and let me know what you think! If you do, please leave a review on Amazon. It helps more than you know!

For those of you who don’t yet know about my book, it is a reflection of how I’ve changed my thinking in such a dramatic way over the past 7 years that I have literally gone from surviving to thriving. It is the foundation for this blog. I was fortunate enough to be able to include writing from two of our fellow bloggers as well:

The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

A Creative PTSD Gal

Thriving Not Surviving: Bravely Pursue a Life That Will Blow Your Mind!